Relationships

Relationships are complicated, everyone knows that. But where do they begin? Do we fall for people because its destiny? Because we see in them what is not in us? Because we need the attention? Where does the feeling of "needing" a relationship begin? Everyone always wants to be loved but when does the love of our parents, family, and friends become not enough? And most of all after we are hurt so much why do we keep going back? To the person that hurt us or just to relationships in general? You would think after someone hurts you so bad that you can barely stand it you wouldn't go back, but many including myself have. The question is, are we stupid or in love or something else? I appreciate receiving attention but by flirting am I leading a guy on or am I innocent? Where is the line when the other person starts having feelings or when they start voicing them? Are relationships patterns? From my personal experience watching others in their relationships I've seen history repeat itself. But is it because we hold ourselves to different standards? Why should I demand to be treated well by being taken out to dinner being called often, then someone else I know buys everything the man she is seeing wants who does not even bother to come see her and when she went to a different city to see him, he did not show up. But this is not the first relationship where this person has been treated badly, it happens in every relationship she seems to have. Why do we put ourselves through this craziness is it because we are selfish or needy? And when we know in the back of our heads there is always a way out of any relationship even marriage is it a wonder that so many people get divorces?