Sunday, February 1, 2009

Love

I often wonder if there is such a thing as true love. Don't get me wrong, I love love. I am a hopeless romantic in every sense of the word. But all the stories in which I love to indulge myself, in the end never seem possible. I constantly wonder am I ever going to find someone so willing to do anything for me or am I going to have to just settle? What if I decide I don't want to settle then I will just end up old and alone and no one wants that. Where do people come up with ideas of all these amazing love stories? A significant percent of the population, including myself, are obsessed with the series Twilight. Anyone who reads it will know why Robert Pattinson is now one of the most popular actors although he has not been in many motion pictures. We all want to feel as if we someone will try to change their nature to be with us even forever. I for one would love to feel so protected and so appreciated as Edward seems to be towards Bella, but the truth of the matter is, no two people are that selfless and if they are, most likely they will never find each other. It is said to think this a truth, but I cannot find any other excuse for my unhappiness. I try daily to not fantasize about "the perfect man" although I can hardly ever keep myself from doing so. I do accept the fact that I have very high standards when it comes to falling in love, but I never seem to keep myself to those standards when the actual event takes place. If you asked me what the perfect man is, I would tell you, someone who wants to know your secrets, who is as anxious to see you as you are him, and (this may seem shallow) but someone attractive, because if you are not attracted then there is no point of being in love. Although different people hold different accounts of what is attractive to them and I always try to acknowledge this. I do not deny I am human and I often find myself thinking "wow he's hot" or "hmm.. not so much" and I honestly feel guilty about it later. Love is such a complicated matter, I'm not sure I will ever know exactly what to think.

2 comments:

  1. You shouldn't feel guilty about your desire to find someone attractive. While basing your friends of such trivial urges is naive it plays an important part in a romantic relationship. Your ideals of the perfect man are not outlandish at all there are other people like that out in the world.

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  2. When I watch movies I also can feel hopeless sometime because the movies seem to good to be true. But I have come to realize that love is different for every person and that is what makes people fall in love is the perception of love. I know that sounds weird, but there are so many different views of love and it is just the kind of love that you strive for and that you find in another person. Even though love can fail sometimes I always believe that there is someone out there looking for the same kind of love that you are looking for, it is just a matter of finding them.

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